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The Power of Words

Our spoken words hold the key to shaping our perception of the world, influencing our actions and ultimately creating the outcomes we desire.

It is through our language that we express our innermost thoughts and beliefs, giving form to our reality. When we adopt a positive mindset and consciously choose empowering words we set the stage for transformative change. By aligning our vision of the world with the words we speak we unlock the potential to manifest our desired outcomes and shape our own reality. The profound connection between how we see the world and the language we employ underscores the power we hold to create and show our aspirations.

During a profound session with a client she arrived at the determination that she "should" execute certain tasks to ensure her well-being. On the surface I might feel gratified, as she seemed to have grasped the concept and appeared ready to act accordingly. However, I had reservations because she frequently failed to perform tasks she believed she "should" do. Instead she identified herself as a chronic procrastinator, someone who never completes what she commences, such as a fitness regimen.

The word "should" subtly but significantly undermines our spirit, functioning much like a tranquillizer. When I apply "should" to my actions, I inadvertently diminish the probability of achieving my desired outcomes. This applies to the related terms as well, such as "ought to", "supposed to", "obligated to" and the semi-humorous "they're gonna get me if I don't".

"Should" is largely counterproductive due to its underlying judgmental and somewhat adversarial undertones. For example I would never counsel my friend, Fred, by saying "Hey Fred, you should lose some weight"! Words, like drugs, have a significant impact on our cognitive processes. Where my client unwittingly ingests a metaphorical tranquilizer by using "I should", I, on the other hand, inhale an invigorating breath of motivation with "I want to".

Actions fuelled by desire as opposed to obligation are starkly different. The former kindles a fervor that powers you through tasks, eagerly overcoming hurdles. Yet, when actions are driven by a sense of duty characterized by "should", they are undertaken with reluctance, resentment and sometimes not performed at all. It's akin to trying to drive with one foot still on the brake.

As a result of the language used in her inner dialogue my client perceives herself as a perpetual procrastinator, incorrectly associating this habit with her core personality. Bound by this misconception she sees no possibility for change. After all, how could she modify something so fundamentally ingrained in her identity?

However, procrastination is not a permanent trait. It's a transitory behavioral pattern that can be adjusted as per one's will. It remains an option, open for anyone, to either embrace it or dismiss it at any given moment.

As a counselor, I make it a priority not to let my clients conclude sessions with the notion of "should". My mission is to guide them towards a balanced, fulfilling life. It is vital for them to comprehend the potency of words, not merely in a wishful thinking context but also in shaping their worldview. Aligning how they perceive the world with how they verbalize this perception significantly influences their actions, ultimately driving their results. By becoming the person who embodies their words my clients experience transformation.

I emphasize to my clients the importance of careful and thoughtful word selection, as language can be a powerful agent of change.

In an unexpected twist, a group of young individuals found themselves experiencing physical distress and vomiting after one of them shared alarming information about the food they consumed. Their condition wasn't the result of the food itself, but rather the power of spoken words. This incident highlights the profound influence words can have on our minds and bodies. Words transcend the realm of pharmacology, possessing the ability to shape our emotions, perceptions and even our physical well-being.

The incident we've discussed serves as a poignant example of how certain words can trigger visceral reactions. The announcement of contaminated food and hospitalized peers caused a ripple effect of vomiting and sickness, despite it later being revealed as a false alarm. This episode underscores the deep connection between language and our mental and physical states, showcasing the significant impact words can have on physiological responses.

Not only do words affect our reactions to external stimuli, but they also shape our internal dialogue. The choice between different sentences can profoundly impact our overall well-being. Let's consider a scenario where we come home exhausted from work. If our self-talk revolves around fatigue and a desire to evade familial responsibilities, a negative mindset takes hold. Conversely, by consciously selecting positive and empowering thoughts such as appreciating the joys of family life, we can elevate our mood and experience moments of delight. This illuminates the immense power of self-talk in influencing our attitudes and emotions.

The choice of words serves as the foundation of our thoughts, ultimately shaping our reality. Moreover, an expectant mother's mental attitude during pregnancy directly correlates with childbirth complications and the subsequent health of the newborn. By becoming aware of our habitual words and phrases we can actively create a more positive and vibrant life.

In every moment, I am faced with a crucial decision. I have the power to take full ownership of my thoughts and words or succumb to victimhood, allowing my thoughts and words to control and overpower me. When I perceive myself as a victim, I view my thoughts and words as external forces that happen to me, leaving me feeling helpless. However, as the owner of my mind, I become the master of my thoughts, including my words. I consciously shape the patterns of my thinking, fully aware that it all begins with the deliberate selection of phrases and sentences. These carefully chosen words act as the brushstrokes that paint vibrant and captivating pictures, igniting the fire within my spirit. The power to shape my thoughts and words lies in my hands, and by embracing this ownership, I unleash my inner potential and create a world of endless possibilities.

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